My post for the Blogger’s Quilt Festival”

This is a post for the Blogger’s Quilt Festival” http://amyscreativeside.com/category/bloggers-quilt-festival/

I choose this quilt to blog about because it is meaningful for me in many deeply personal ways. I hesitate to bring this up in a public forum, but many women are going to relate to this, sadly.

As a child I had vivid imagination and was reckless and unafraid of anything . I was loud, lively and loved life.

But after years s in an abusive marriage, I became a completely different person. I understand battered woman syndrome, it causes a withdraw from life and constant fear, loss of trust in yourself. They don’t leave because they are helpless in their own minds. It could be compared to a turtle who pulls it’s head into it’s shell for protection. When you distrust yourself , your judgement, you don’t take risks, you play life safe, you try to be invisible, stay unnoticed so you don’t attract attention to yourself.  You see yourself as helpless, powerless, and that becomes a reality because you believe it to be true.

That was years ago, I got out. I was a single parent for much time after that.. I am now happily married and have 3 wonderful children. And slowly I began to work at healing. Learning to stick my head out a slowly, bit by bit.

Art has been one avenue that has helped to teach me to trust myself again. I think that’s why I began art quilting.

I can take risks . I even have opened  my online art quilting business! That’s  so  big. This quilt was commissioned, the old me could never have done that, who would like anything I made? I am able to recommend my work and promote myself, and be proud of myself.

I think my new freedom  is especially evident in designing and making of a new art piece. I have trust my instincts  again, and other people trust me too because of that. Instead of hiding in a corner, I am shouting look at me “with my loud color choices and out of the box designs”.

This quilt was an especially risky one for me to make but I did it, and I love it! It is a proud moment for me personally.

This is not about self-pity, but how change is possible. It lies within ourselvess to make life what we want it to be. Think of Dorothy’s ruby red slippers. We do not have to accept bad circumstances in life passively. The power always was there within us the whole time. We just have to start to believe again. If we begin to think it and say it enough, we convince ourselves of the truth of it and that my dears, leads to change!

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Barbara Harms Fiber Art

About Myself & My Approach
Art has always played a role in my life, in one form or another. My family is filled with many artist's, so my love of art came naturally.
By my teens, I had narrowed my focus to painting. I decided I was going to become a serious painter. I joined the Las Vegas Artist's Guild at 15, the youngest member at that time.
I've continued to paint throughout my life. On occasion I've sold my work, but I had more important priorities, I was raising my children, part of that time as a single parent.
My circumstances have changed, the kids are grown and I have more time for Art. Art is a form of therapy for me.
I was introduced to quilting & fell in love.
In time I missed the creative freedom painting made possible.

Then I discovered mixed media fiber art, I was home.
MY APPROACH TO ART
It's the creative process that holds the greatest attraction for me. Starting with a tiny seed of an idea; vague and blurred around the edges, I follow where that leads.
My approach is an instinctual one. Generally, I do little pre-planning. I make creative decisions, choices, directions to take as they present themselves.
This approach can lead to quite a few changes in the direction the quilt takes. The outcome can come as a surprise. I love that element of surprise!
Sometimes everything just comes together & I think to myself, "this is one of my better ones". when that happens, I can’t wait to show someone. I feel like a six year old, running home from school, a drawing in hand, excited to show Mom. At those times. I'm smiling like the Cheshire cat.

I’ve had work published in several magazines., which is gratifingvl. But the most gratifying thing is having clients be really happy with their purchased quilt.

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    • Thank you Megan for your nice words.
      But I can’t take credit for getting out of that situation, really I just read everything I could on the subject to help myself and my kids. It helped me to make the changes inside in the way I thought.
      There’s lots of help out there, but it starts with what we say to ourselves every day 24 X 7. What we believe becomes reality eventually.
      Barb

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  1. Thank you for sharing your beautiful quilt, and for having the courage to tell your story too. You have come a long way, and often the “trolls” will burst when they are out into the daylight. But it takes courage.
    Best of luck with your quilting venture, – let your talent shine 🙂

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